On the 5th of August 2017, my legally adopted daughter, Ngozi Udenwa got married to the man who was specially handpicked for her by God himself….. A wonderful young man I must say
Some of you already know a bit about how she became my daughter but the majority of you have no idea and I wish to share the amazing story of our journey together as mother and daughter…..
In the year 2000, barely 2 months after I gave birth to my first child, by sheer happenstance I got a second househelp….. My first househelp had gone home to see her family briefly and I needed someone to cover for her until she returned….. My parents got me the second househelp to help me with my new baby so I could face my studies squarely, seeing that I was a 5th year medical student at the time. That second househelp was Ngozi Udenwa my daughter….. She was only to stay with me for a short while, just a few days but she ended up staying with me until the 5th of August 2017….. More than 17yrs in total!!!
When she came into my care, she was a lovely, humble, lowly, young innocent beautiful girl whose only ambition in life was to be sent to school….. She had completed primary school but was yet to commence secondary school….. She was very passionate about going to secondary school at all cost, and I assured her that not only would she go to secondary school, she would also go to the University and be a huge success under the care of my husband and I….. To the glory of God’s mighty name Amen ?
And so our journey started….. I quickly observed that she was a very humble, patient and kind hearted person….. Ngozi approached every task you gave her with equanimity…. She was never flustered nor irritated….. She always did her tasks thoroughly and with great conscience ….. She was also particularly honest, trust worthy and hard working, she hardly ever complained about anything and when she did, I always took her seriously, knowing that for her to talk, it must be something of great significance ….. A very mild mannered, meek, respectful, tolerant and peaceful young lady….. She was a pleasure to have in my home….. She treated my children like she was their own mother, she would cry when they were sick, I was amazed at the love she showered on them whether I was around or not, her behaviour towards them was always the same…. She treated them exactly the same in my absence as she did in my presence….. And that was one of the best things about her….. She was always without any form of pretence….. Ngozi did not know and still does not know the meaning of “eye-service”….. With her what you saw was what you got whether she was being watched or not….. The consistency in the goodness she exudes greatly endeared her to my husband, myself and all the members of our families who had the opportunity of dealing with her….
Everyone admired the dedication with which she loved and cared for my children and my home….. She is the kind of person you can leave your kids with and go to Timbuktu and sleep with your 2 eyes closed, confident in the knowledge that your children would be cared for as if you were the one caring for them yourself…. As the kids grew older, they testified to the goodness of Aunty Ngo as they all refer to her …..
My husband and I enrolled her in secondary school as soon as she settled into our home….. And she proved to be an intelligent, ambitious and focused young lady to our collective delight….. She knew what she wanted and she set out to achieve it….. By the time she came to our home, her biological mother was already deceased, a few years into her secondary education, she also lost her biological father….. And became an orphan biologically….. As time went on, we decided to relocate abroad and we decided to legally adopt her and take her with us….. By then she had lived with us for 4 years and we were pretty confident that we were doing the right thing and that with God on our side, neither of us was going to regret the move to make Ngozi our legally adopted daughter, with all the rights and privileges that go with her newly acquired status….. The adoption process was rigorous but we
succeeded in the end and we brought her with us to Ireland….. My husband and I promised her that if she remained as loyal, respectful, hardworking and peaceful as she has been, then we will ensure that she becomes a university graduate and an Irish citizen, God willing.
She became a very important member of our family, providing the much needed robust domestic support while she was enrolled into the Irish educational system to work her way into the tertiary institution here….. Through us she became an Irish citizen ????and soon got a good job while she continued to study…..To the glory of God’s mighty name Amen….. And this year she graduated from the University ??
?….. I am so grateful to God and proud of her for achieving this great feat because I know just how much she wanted this….. And less than a month after she graduated, she got married to her Prince Charming…. ?????…. Talk about everything coming together for good to those who love God, who work according to His purpose…..
Ngozi could have given us hell in Ireland if she wanted to…. Infact she was advised to do so by some unscrupulous elements when she was about to leave Nigeria with us …. But she CHOSE to give us peace and joy and in return she is reaping peace and joy…. She played a key role in maintaining the stability of my home and now she will enjoy great stability in her own home, as it has pleased God….. We have become so close as mother and daughter that I hardly remember that she was once my househelp….. We have a deeply confiding relationship and my children are as much her children as they are her siblings too….. They are mad about Aunty Ngo and won’t hesitate to fell anyone who stands in the way of her happiness….. It gives us tremendous joy as a family to see her become a success in both her personal and in her professional life…. She is both personally, professionally and economically fulfilled…. Chineke daalu ….. My husband and I are so elated that through the grace, mercy and favour of God, we fulfilled our promise to her ….. Our promise to her that she will become
successful in all aspects of her life if she remained good has been fulfilled today…. Holy Trinity in one God we bow down and worship you for enabling us to make good on our promise to her after she delivered her own part of the agreement.
My family and I travelled en masse to Nigeria this July in order to send her forth, honour her and celebrate with her as she commenced her new life as a married woman…. It is our fervent prayer that God continues to reward her goodness and loyalty to us even as we have tried in our own little way to reward her through the grace, mercy and favour of God Amen ?
From my Househelp ?My legally adopted Daughter?Irish citizen ?Working class girl?Graduate?Beloved wife of a good man….. It took 17 yrs but she’s finally where she truly wants to be……Thank you Jesus….. Amen
? ….. She was patient….. Very patient…. But she now has it all, against all odds….. Chineke daalu ?
Humility, patience and a great sense of loyalty made her what she is today….. Humility attracted God’s favour into her life, patience helped her wait for the full manifestations of God’s blessings and her loyalty to us was rewarded with our loyalty to her….. Seeing Ngozi go from a lowly impoverished househelp to an economically viable university graduate who is now an Irish citizen and a happily married woman has added more years to my life because of the sense of fulfilment it affords me…… I am indeed deeply gratified…. Chineke daalu ??????
Humility is the mother of all virtues….. If you want to be served….. You must first serve! With patience and humility!!!